Buyers have the uncanny ability to drive sellers absolutely insane. They are notorious for insulting offers, not showing up, making crazy demands, and being overall unreasonable. Of course, sellers can drive buyers insane too. If you’re looking to buy a home, here are things you should avoid doing, so that you can stay on the seller’s good side.

The first is, to not come prepared with a long list of “what’s wrong” with the house is a big mistake. Sellers are more interested at the bottom line number. A better approach would be to write a list of comparables along with your offer and a personal letter introducing yourself and why you want the house.a-critic

Next, don’t make yourself at home so early. Sellers are permitted to set some ground rules and one that is very popular is “no shoes.” If the sellers are not home, then it’s the responsibility of the agent to enforce the rules.

Not showing up for appointments is pretty high on the list. A seller puts a lot of work into getting their home ready for a showing. They take the time to clear up everyday clutter, clean the home to make it shine and take the kids and pets and leave the house for a few hours so that potential buyers can have a peaceful tour of the home. Unless it is a truly last minute emergency, make sure you cancel hours, not minutes, before the appointment.

Business people shaking hands, finishing up a meetingSome buyers think that if they’ve committed to purchase, then they are entitled to accessing the home whenever they wish. This is the time when the sellers are trying to get the repairs done amongst packing and moving. The best time for a visit would be when the inspector is there or during the final walkthrough before closing.

Lastly, don’t try to hurry the seller out of the house. They have needs too. Buyers are usually trying to time the closing of the purchase to their own schedule and this is extremely common. It can be annoying to the seller when the buyer wants to close before they are ready to move out. The closing date should work for all parties. The buyers and sellers need to coordinate a schedule, but still be respectful to each other.

Basically, just try to treat the seller like a human! They are people too. Just as badly as you want to buy the house, they want to sell it. After all, in order to make the deal work, you’re going to both have to meet halfway with your contingencies. Good luck!


If You Want The House, You’ve Got To Stay Relatively On The Seller’s Good Side. Here’s How To Not Tick Off The Seller, So That You Can Get The House

2 thoughts on “If You Want The House, You’ve Got To Stay Relatively On The Seller’s Good Side. Here’s How To Not Tick Off The Seller, So That You Can Get The House

  • I think the seller is irritated with us, as we’ve asked a lot of questions. We are just trying to be sure we cover all of our bases. is this normal?

  • Hi Gretchen,

    It is perfectly acceptable for you to ask as many questions as you want. The seller may just be irritated that they have to answer so many questions, but you are the one putting up hundreds of thousands of dollars to purchase their home, so you generally have the upper hand. Assuming that you are asking GENERAL questions. If you are trying to re-negotiate, etc. then that is a different story as I do not know what you’re asking them. Be sure to discuss with your realtor!

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